When You Do Not Want to Try Anymore
“Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger, and do not give the devil a foothold.”Ephesians 4:26–27,…
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Facing Situation: Conflict
Sound Wars
Every church has a doctrinal position on the volume of its Sunday morning music. This position does not appear in the church’s statement of…
Mistaking Personality Differences for Character Defects
Several years ago, I watched two people struggle through a conversation that should have been relatively simple. One was fast, direct, decisive, and ready…
Look for the Log
I was reflecting on the Law of Reflection… “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice…
When Love Tells the Truth
“Better an open rebuke than love that is concealed. The wounds of a friend are faithful, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”(Proverbs…
When a Leader Looks Away
“Rescue those being led away to death, and restrain those stumbling toward the slaughter. If you say, ‘Behold, we did not know about this,‘”‘…
The Offense That Never Happened
You cannot consistently extend grace to what you misinterpret, because your response to people is always shaped more by your perception than by their…
How to Shepherd a Shepherd
One of the greatest misunderstandings in church leadership is the belief that shepherding flows only in one direction. We picture the pastor shepherding the…
How to Shepherd a Shepherd
There is a dangerous misconception in many churches today. When a leader begins wounding people through harshness, intimidation, control, or pride, we often assume…
When Strong Leadership Becomes Dangerous (Part 1)
Strong leadership becomes dangerous when gifting, results, and sound doctrine conceal patterns of harshness, control, and fear. Scripture calls churches—and especially elders—to recognize these patterns early and shepherd both their leaders and their people faithfully.