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Many couples believe they are repeatedly fighting about money, children, work, sex, or household responsibilities when the deeper problem is the pattern that develops around those disagreements. Decades of couple research reveal how blame, demand, withdrawal, emotional reactivity, and avoidance can become self-reinforcing cycles—and how husband and wife can learn a healthier way through conflict.
The words we speak to our wives help create the relational climate of our marriages. A husband cannot control his wife's character, but he is responsible for what he contributes to their relationship. Speak grace. Build up. Nourish and cherish. Your wife is not the enemy. She is your bride.
God has entrusted us with words, and Scripture gives those words a purpose. They are to tell the truth, give grace, build people up, restore relationships, protect reputations, communicate gratitude, and express love. The Stewardship of Words explores how husbands and wives, parents and children, friends, and leaders can learn to love one another through what they say—and what they refuse to say.
Marriage can become surprisingly inward-looking. One simple way to grow closer is to turn outward together—serving someone else side by side. Shared service gets us outside ourselves, lets us see Christ at work in one another, and shows our children that love and ministry are personal, not merely programmed.
Some couples do not need more information about marriage. They already know what Scripture, wisdom, counseling, and experience have taught them. The problem is that truth has not yet become consistent behavior. Knowledge can inform us, but only applied truth—practiced repeatedly—begins to transform the way we live and love.
Holding your wife’s hand may seem like a little thing, but little expressions of affection repeated consistently can become big things in a marriage. Walk beside her, reach for her hand, and let her—and your children—see that you still genuinely enjoy being together.
One of the great dangers of leadership is not that leaders stop thinking, but that they gradually become the only person allowed to evaluate their thinking. Because every leader has blind spots and the capacity for self-deception, wisdom requires people who can see what we cannot—and who have permission to tell us when we may be wrong.
Sometimes loving your wife better doesn't require a grand gesture. It may take only ten seconds and a little consideration. Here's one surprisingly simple way to say, “I love you.”
The DISC Model of Human Behavior gives us a practical language for understanding how people naturally communicate, make decisions, approach work, respond to change, and relate to others. Learn how the model works, why a reliable assessment can be remarkably accurate, and how to use that knowledge without labeling people or excusing behavior.
“Therefore as the elect of God holy and beloved clothe yourselves with hearts of compassion kindness humility gentleness and patience. Bear with one another…
