“The problem is not that people do not care about forgiveness. The problem is that many of us have inherited definitions that are incomplete, shallow, emotionalized, or shaped more by modern culture than by Scripture.”

That matters because unclear definitions produce unclear obedience.

And few things create more destruction in marriages, families, churches, and friendships than spiritual language attached to unbiblical assumptions.

One of the most powerful things a leader can do is define terms carefully. Every conflict eventually becomes a conflict of definitions.